Often people end their lives for a problem that would just pass by. Is it the only solution? The only way to get you out of that problem?
I decided to write this post after I heard the news of a girl from Bishop Cottons Girls School, Bangalore, who committed suicide yesterday night. May her soul rest in peace.
So there might be many reasons why people commit suicide. Depression, Mental instability, Pressure etc etc., but the only question that comes to my mind is, is it the only solution to your problem?
No, Ending your life doesn't end your problems. Life gives you lemons and chocolates at the same time. Sometimes the journey of life is so simple and joyful whereas sometimes it is difficult. But leading a life is in taking both its ups and downs positively and making the best out of it. Sometimes a problem you face, may seem unbearable at that point of time but that doesn't mean it can't be solved. If god has given you problems that means he thinks that you worthy of facing them, don't let him down by ending your life. A decision taken at the wrong time in a hurry would lead to suffering of your loved ones throughout their lifetime. Life is precious, You have no rights to end it. No problem justifies killing one's soul. Death toll of teenagers by committing suicide is increasing day by day. Why? Is it that difficult to face problems that have come our way? It will just pass by. What has come should go. No misery is permanent, so why end yourself for a temporary issue?
Suicide is a cowardly act. Life is a game of snake and ladder, if you can't face a tough situation, suicide is not the only way. No matter what the situation is, you got to face it. That's life. This life was gifted to you by god so that you give something useful to the soceity and you end it this way? That's disrespecting your own soul.
"Winners never quit and quitters never win" - Anonymous.
That most agonistic effect of suicide is the ways it affects the people close to the victim, Parents for instance. The sight of Parents losing their child is heart wrenching. You can never imagine the pain you cause them by committing such acts. Did they live to this day? To see their child ending his/her life? Is this why they took care of you all these years with utmost care? Can any problem be greater than causing pain to your parents?
They will suffer for their whole life. Every moment. Every time you are mentioned, Everytime they look at your photos, Everytime they come up with your memories. Ending your life is betraying your parents too. What about your siblings? What would they go through?
You will be gone but who will support those hands that fed you? You will support those shoulders that carried you? Who will make those eyes happy that always wished for your happiness? Who will bring a smile to those lips that always prayed for your long and contended life? Who will take care of them? How can you be so selfish? Abondoning your parents and loved ones for something that was not so worthy at all. You don't just kill yourself but also the ones around you. Your parents will die everyday mentally. Is this what you actually wanted.
Can a problem be bigger than any of this? If suicide was the only solution then why is it illegal throughout the world? You have no rights to take away the life of anyone neither your own.
Why do people commit suicide, What might be the possible issues for taking this extreme step?
Some of the common reasons,
* FAILURE IN EXAMINATIONS/ POOR GRADES
Is this really such a big thing that it results in claiming a precious life?
No, not at all. If you fail once you still have million opportunities to succeed. Take the exam again, Come up with flying colours, Work hard and succeed. Success isn't a glass of water, It takes courage and greater perseverance to achieve it. Haven't you heard the famous saying "Failures are the stepping stone to success". No one can taste the wine of success without tasting the bitterness of failure. They are like the two faces of a single coin. Don't be discouraged, there's plenty of opportunities available in the world.
* LOVE FAILURE
Is this really even an issue? You got be happy that the person left you, because they never deserved you in their life. If it was truly love then they wouldn't have left you at the first place. If you broke up then feel happy that you got rid of someone who held no importance for you in their life. They shouldn't get importance too. Chuck them off like getting rid of a trash. Before ending your life for such a person, think about your parents. You want to ditch those who love you more than anything in this world for a shit that is of no significance at all? Can't you live for the ones who gave you life and took care that all your wishes were fulfilled. How would they feel when they realize that their child ended his life for someone who had no place in thier life? Can you imagine the trauma and agony they go through? You want your parents to go through all this? You will find someone in your life who will love just you, wait for them instead of wasting your life on someone who doesn't even deserve to cross your minds.
* BECAUSE YOUR PARENTS SCOLDED YOU
Are your insane? Ever realized why your parents scold you? You think they would win a nobel prize for scolding you? They scold you for your own good. So that you don't have to suffer problems and face troubles and is that a sin they are commiting? After doing so much for you, after raising you up and all, They don't even have a rights to say something to you which in turn is for your own good? They never want youto be spoilt or get abandoned on a wrong road. They always want the best for you. Care for them instead of feeling bad for what they say and punishing them in a way that they suffer their whole life. Same with the case of teachers. They scold you so that you become a better citizen for this country and a good child for your parents. Is that bad? No.
Concluding,
Suicide is never the solution for any problem in the world. Courage lies in facing it and winning the situation. Any trouble is not permanent. Whenever you feel low or depressed talk to someone, Talk to your parents, they would always help you no matter how worse the situation is. No one would deny helping you out if you approach. Talk about your problems to someone close to you so that the burden on your heart is lifted. If you hide your feelings it gets multiplied and reaches to a point where such dreadful actions feel the only way out, so don't lock yourself up. Try to be happy and face any obstacle that comes up. Lead your life worthfully. Life is Precious, Protect it.
Complete the journey of life with a smile and a positive attitude emanating from you that sets you as an example for achieving greatness.
